Bow is a kind of wisdom

Bow is a kind of wisdom

The ancients said: to just fold, the good is like water. Life is not without pride, but we cannot always held his head. A man of manners, like water, is good at everything, and water until soft, not disputes with people endlessly. Because they understand that those with lower higher to music, stretch; soft, can just can look back, will come in. Bow for humility, prudence, is the so-called retreat, cause cause and effect are achieved Avenue, achievement of self.
Remember, at one point, I saw the front yard of the sunflower and bowed his head, whim, found a rope and bamboo poles, a sunflower will be fixed up and was standing by it, look directly at the Sun. I naively believes that it can make sunflower save around trouble, can better absorb sunlight, future particles will be more full.

In the fall, sunflowers are ripe, I can’t wait to come to the approach of the high head sunflower, and thought it was the best, but I am dismayed that, that sunflowers were empty, there will be no full of seed, also gives off a pungent smell of mildew. I asked my father: “why the sunflower harvest held his head? “My father said, laughing:” silly boy, sunflower heads, redundant dew line does not go out, it is easy to breed bacteria, so it would be rotten, you are kind to help busy. In fact, sunflowers, slightly bowed, one is the expression of piety and respect for the Sun, then in order to protect themselves, while Sunflower is a dumb, no intelligence of plants, but they are born with the ability to know, if you want to survive in the world, it is necessary to know how to moderate head. ”

Father, I nodded a lot. Later, I observed, not only sunflowers, and many other plants are aware of this fact. For example, when millet green when they are always, a look of fear but when they come of age, but always humbly bowed his head, a look like. Because it can not only effectively avoid the danger of being broken, but also that the birds could not find focus, thus saved itself through hardships from the fruit.

At this time, it suddenly dawned on me, it turned out that bow is also a big mind, big, big wisdom. I have a friend, he has been pursuing a “good being bullied, horse ride on” philosophy, so very hard, the result has offended many people, he was not led in the unit value, was not welcomed by his colleagues. Each time, a promotion with him, carry work and he passed by, mixing for more than 10 years, or a small staff of one. Friends were wondering, he said: “I just defend their right, what’s wrong with this one? ”

Indeed, there’s nothing wrong with that, just a matter of life. General Tso’s have a saying: “when the down and out, without bullying; big date, not to be jealous. “One should know when to fight, when should I put down, just settling that is a weakness and just puffed up, that is a kind of ignorance. A overexert physical limits, insolent, arrogant people everywhere, it’s hard to get recognition and affirmation from others, it is difficult to accomplish in his career, not in the face of reality is truthless, black and blue, are being marginalized, isolated, depressed and frustrated.

Do the talking-do smart women

Do the talking-do smart women

Talking is not a glib, question-and-answer ten, but by language and communication, turns strangers into friends, and friends become friends of mutual support and understanding.
Smart women, “say” going to conquer others, “Yan” to move people; “talk” will hit the bottom, “word” will trigger. Eloquent woman, nothing can stop her.
Woman was not beautiful. But it must be done. No matter how skillfully communicate. Witty repartee. Flexibility in the way, can make a woman’s exception wonderful.
Talking, will work is an essential ability of a woman, a kind of capital, but also must master the art. Who can effectively use this art, who will be both socially and best, become a big winner in love, career and marriage.
Talking level and competence is a comprehensive reflection of the qualities of modern women and woman the ability of each to be successful. Master said the woman will do is speak and act with Homo habilis, refined way of speaking competence and excellent is their smile working, laugh at life’s important capital.
II-1. Wise woman, to get right
A clever woman, getting some practice GAB capital
In a different voice, express your personality
Voice and tone, is a woman’s second face
Speech politeness, special airfares Xia men to show your breeding
Smiling, shape the affinity of crowning
Fine woman, laconic choke
2. tongue blossoming Lotus, say the women would welcome
Talk straight, easy to hurt others
Slip of the tongue, learn to “slip stitch”
Innuendo, achieve their own purposes
Thorny topics, good smart solution
Speaking to what song to sing
More rounders, better than nothing annoying
Meet for the first time, the first impression is directly related to how you will be evaluated
Introduce yourself, generous and focused
Refined way of speaking, and improve your overall quality of
Appropriate topics, narrowing the distance between you and the stranger
The wind blows, and want to say what
Names issue, holding up each other
Women’s sense of humor, promote popular secret weapon
Talking with people, Word when it comes to others
Modest compliment, more simple
Mobilizing feelings, elicits empathy
To avoid the ice, people familiar with the topic
Word is the same, what is the key
A compliment, ‘ round a bend more natural
Sincerely confessed that others envy
Good mouth, moderate heat said
Rash words, say it easy to recover is difficult
Drafted in his own mouth on his door
Appropriate jokes make people happy, inappropriate jokes make people mad
Complaining the more worse things
Enough is enough, have to cut three points
Cards, and sometimes will kill you
Chatter, than an appropriate silence
3. love is sugar, a woman’s honey gentleness made it sweet and fragrant
Ordinary life, but sweet
To a man, “positive hints”, let him become better
Play makes life interesting
A romantic young woman, meets her husband’s potential desire
Just kidding, it is a good way to resolve conflicts
Sweet emotion, need a white lie
4. the sky in the workplace, women’s glib yourself smooth
Put the position, respect others is to respect yourself
Job interview, “said,” a chance to
Praise the colleagues, create a pleasant working atmosphere
Facing the boss, keep a proper distance from
For criticism, without wounding
Out his, would also have to say
5. family, wisdom of women’s rhetoric to achieve harmony
Nag, worry about are you spreading at home
Calmly, closing the door on the family
Angry, can’t do the East lion
No communication, “automatic understanding of” unlikely
Cuts don’t be sad, to be a good daughter-in-law than a witty wife
Careful son, talking the mother of the child does not play not scold
A make you sad child abuse can only curse
Children cooperation and try to capture his merits
To “consult”, giving children the most helpful guide
Develop a positive attitude and reason than telling a story
To teach also teach by example, to set a good example
Children have to “face”, try not to publicly rebuke him for his
Witty woman, popular thing to do
6. a woman, doing everything to please people like
Ladylike demeanor never out of
Explore the beauty of nature, creating engaging personality
Use wisdom to control their emotions
Confident woman attractive
Friendly, can have a popularity
Gratitude and you will gain more happiness
7. communicate with people, women ask for help-do you want to freelance
In return, to establish good interaction
Make a relationship of “contact”
Ask for help when practicing a good “patient”
Moving people by emotion, let the other side of the balance tipped to you
Ask-do, courtesy to good
8. create an environment women ban to pave the
Congenial atmosphere make communication more efficient
Know how to laugh at themselves and laugh others than to laugh at yourself
Contact, not sanliujiudeng people separated
Punch lines to defuse embarrassing
Playing a part, punch lines out of entanglement
“Push” wine Word, reason why not to offend
Harmony superiority is too bad
9. Watch: women do to keep up with each other’s psychological
Mantra reveal secrets
Obedient listening through conversation hearts
Read each other’s body language
Look through the clothing styles
Shows potential information from a handshake
Do find time, you first look
10. more smart, will work for women who
Front of frustrated people, do not show their pride
Women do not show himself smarter than others
By demeaning others to raise their own work
Respect for the authority of the boss, not to contradict
Say your problem, let the person understand you
Hitting does not face, curse not jieduan
People refute, you get only verbal victory
11. play to our strengths, there is a mysterious force called the gentle
Tender is the most sharp weapons
Lifted importuning results
Dear, your “noble” more
Give full play to the “femininity” of social utility
Careful and thoughtful as you win popularity
12. human, lost women are equal
Gathering popularity, respect everyone around you
More considerate of others, there is no open
Look, don’t overlook “the little people”
Tolerance is a big, nothing too much
Don’t blame others
Low-key life, understand and share
Don’t increase friction as “enmity”
13. the emotional investment, before-and-after all women should be taking someone else
Cherish long-term relationships, not burning bridges
Giving a small well, don’t hang on the mouth
Snowy weather makes life
Usual “pay” key when the “emotion”
Willing, no homes, no
14. maintain contacts, women friends are less difficult
Friend class character
Not under the influence of a personal grudge, to establish effective networking
Will take force, does not avoid “friendships of utility”
Widen your way, be good at working with people
Enhance their “use” values
Preferred overdraft money or overdraft “favor”
• Three intelligent woman, to get right
Every women want to be attractive, they are building their own fascination. Attractive woman, her every action has a magical attraction like a magnet, has conquered the hearts of the. Attractive women are most likely to be successful.
Things such as face and body, is the feminine charm of hardware while a woman’s way of doing things, the level of talks, software that was her charm, plays a decisive role. With people in the community, others on how women, women gave the impression for better or worse, are determined by expressions of a woman.
There are many women are smart, they are happy to show their superiority, commenting, defensible, and talk if debate with people, always had a way of people connecting to say a Word. This is the most attractive way of talking? Instead, women’s charm is a soft draw, with an almost overbearing means allowing people to “worship”, the result will usually only make others at arm’s length.
A female donor, his family was very wealthy, regardless of their wealth, social status, ability and good looks, no one can match up, but she was unhappy, there is not even a talking person. So she posed to realize static master, how can it be the charm to win someone’s joy.
Understanding static Jackson told her: “you can cooperate with all kinds of people anywhere, anytime, and have compassion Buddha mind, talking about Zen, listening to meditation music, do some Zen, Zen, then you can be charming people. ”
Patroness after hearing, asked: “Zen-how do you say it? ”
Understanding static Jackson: “Zen, which means joy, said true, said modest, said Li. ”
Patroness and asked: “Zen audio and how to listen? ”
Understanding static Jackson: “Zen audio and sound is the voice of all the subtle sounds, sounds insulting to the voice of compassion, voices to help against the sound crying noises, loud sound ugly, you do not mind, it is the voice of Zen. ”
Patroness asked again: “Zen thing do? ”
Understanding static Jackson: “Zen thing is giving, charitable, and the things, services, in line with the Dharma. ”
Patroness further asked: “Zen mind how can I use it? ”
Understanding static Jackson: “Zen mind you I heart, heart, all-inclusive, Pooley’s heart. ”
Patroness upon hearing this, changed the previous fragile, no longer flaunt their wealth in front of people, no longer rely on self’s beauty, always courteous, neighbours have compassionate care of dependents, soon to be praised as “the most attractive woman.”
In our lives, either a straight face all day does not make a sound, or failing to NIE NIE ru chatteration woman, it’s certainly not pleasing, but only for “speaking” and “speaking”, and the meaning of life is not enough for a woman, even though the hype, after all, or are not recognized by others.
Women have a wonderful heart and can exercise truly wonderful eloquence. First when we talk to the people around you with an understanding of the heart, of course, this does not mean that I would not say that, or the herd. To sincerely express their views, while not offending people. This requires that we speak to your head, milder euphemistic, try not to offend each other and give each other enough to face, and let each other know that we think. Smart woman but also humble enough to listen, not just listening to language, but also to listen to the tone. A woman talking is often a good listener, so the other person will want to think of her as a friend, confided to her heart.
Words charm, can make an ordinary-looking woman full of moving light. When France Salon woman, is representative of the generation of elegant style and excellent social skills, those ladies are usually not very young, but their personal charm can make dwarf King wearing a Crown. In many cases, when the talks deadlocked when this intelligent woman can easily make the situation look better. Maybe they’re not beautiful, not-so-young, but they can put everyone’s eyes are attracted to, and become the object of pursuit.
Napoleon Hill said “charismatic person that everyone loved to make friends with him; and attractive people are always happy. He seems the Sun on a rainy day, to banish the dark. Everyone is willing to do things for him, he can do to a person other people even dreamed of it. ”
Attractive women should be “in and out” basis. Understanding there is no deviation, skills can slowly understand and exercise. On the basis of this, a woman in exquisitely carved, wildly popular, is not difficult.